PT107 Truth vs. Fraud (3)

Facilitator: Prabha Chandrasekhar
2009/4/29 & 5/6

If we don’t speck of truth, what would be the outcome?
- We Cheer ourselves and others.

Why do we not tell the truth? Why?
- If it is that we want to avoid the conflicts, what could we ask our clients? (What are the negative or positive outcomes? What are the long term consequences of not telling the truth?) (How do you face and handle the truth when people tell the truth to you?)

How do we coach people to tell the truth wisely?
- Think about how to choose the word.
- Starting from looking at the questions of confrontation and looking into the intention. Do you intend to confront or not?

Help the person to release and believe the outcome of telling the truth even we cannot control another person’s responds. (In reality we cannot control the other person’s reaction.)
Do not lie in a relationship. Tell the truth as soon as possible. We should not mislead the situation. Telling the person at this moment, I am comfortable to be friends. (Own the power of your action and words, and be responsible for what you say and do.)

How do we help people pass fear? And move toward trust and released.
How to keep the feeling of compassion, trust and believe the other party?
Is it a right thing to do “withhold”?
- Before you answer this question yourself or tell a person the truth. We need to think of the possible reaction/outcome of the clients. If we could control the situation, we could tell the truth. On the other way, I might tell a story to test the person. Tell the truth step by step.
- Test with a little question first to see if they are ready for the truth.
- I would help my client to find their own truth on their own first by using questions and reflections. It’s more powerful than that I tell the truth to them.