PT107 Truth vs. Fraud (2)

Facilitator: Prabha Chandrasekhar
2009/4/29 & 5/6

When we have a client who is going through from this (above), what kind of questions we could ask to bring their awareness and take care themselves?
- Why not tell the truth? What would happen if you tell the truth?

Sometimes we would assume that I was hurt by this before and I would not hurt the others with this. For example, when we were children and we told the truth but we got punished, so we decided not to tell the truth anymore. We are not adult now and we would not get punished. Ask them why they feel it that way. Ask them why it happen but tell them that they are a different person now. They need to think of themselves and take care of themselves. We have the choice now and every moment is a new opportunity.

I need to behave in certain way due to the social environment. What about this kind of client? How can we take them move forward?
- Ask them what stopping them to do so. What is holding them?
- What are the consequence if others listen to you without any assumption?
- If they listen to you without assumptions, what would you say?

“Do you know who you are when you are the true self?”
Ask the question and ask client how they feel and how they are in that situation (give them sometime), and then ask they want stop them to be that person.

Do you think others are also hiding information from you? How would this help the process?
- The other person withholds the information to me and I don’t trust them. They lose the trust from me. It could bring up the awareness.
- Ask “How would you see the person if you withhold the information?”

As a coach, how can we help the manager of the company to see what’s happening. (A company to be merged)
- Make sure the information going to employee are truthful, even there’s a risk.
- What would the management get in return? (cooperation, trust)

Being truthful, trust is the biggest winner even it’s difficult. Because truth help the person know what’s the real situation.