Facilitator: Isabelle King
2009/8/24 & 8/31
Look back the situation, what are the effects of that situation when you were blaming?
- It’s all about me. Offensive
- Cause anxiety
- No true dialogue
Opposite Exercise: a time you took the responsibility, what supported you to take responsibility? (It does not mean that, “It’s all my faults.”)
- Change perspectives
- Humbleness to review ourselves
- Support from books, tools, or others
- Review our expectation: What are my expectations here?
- Look at the situation objectively
If you are working with clients, what do you want to make sure there to support them?
- Honest feedback (based on facts but not compassion)
Example of dancing
- With each dancing partners, most of time they are in blame mode of what did you do that? But someone take responsibility, they would just move on and enjoy the moment
There are more opportunities to learn and joyment when are take responsible. When are take responsibility, we also give others opportunities to take responsibility. We would be more proactive to control the situation.
Blaming just keeps us in the past.
Can you think of any benefits brought by blame? Blame would create boundary.
Exercise
What do you notice the major differences when you take responsibility and when you are blaming in your life? What could we put in place to go forward and set ourselves free?
Think of something that we could prevent blaming. Stop taking too much, review the expectation.
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