FC102 Perspective 觀點 - Part II

Facilitator: Bill Turpin
2009/1/22, 20:00-21:00

Key learning points
Perspective (point of view) is essential to coaching. Perspective is the way of seeing life or interpreting a particular situation. Perspective is a choice of how we see or interpret something. Your perspective determines your experience of life, not your circumstances. Why are two people in same circumstances, but have different experience? It is because of they have different perspectives. An empowering perspective provides a better experience.

We need to support our clients reframe a disempowering perspective to an empowering one. Sometimes they hold on a perspective because it works for themselves. There's a payback to them. We could not force them to change. They need to make the decision to change. An example of "reframing" - When life hands you a lemon, make it a lemonade." Reframing is an art, seeing things from a new eye & different direction.

Reframing = choose what it means to you and what is good to you. Reframing is more than looking the bright side of things. We need new perspectives to sense the possibility of changing our experience. Clients see problems, we (coach) see potentials. We need to ask ourselves, "when we see others, we see problems or potentials?" "Reframing" is a powerful changing strategy.

Failure is only a "moment", not a "monument". Life is about learning, learning from your mistakes. You cannot have life testimony unless you come through the tests; you cannot have life message unless you come out of mess.

Reframe does not equal to "denial". Reframe = clients understand, take the responsibility and take the action to face the circumstances. When we choose reframing, we are choosing freedom and make a difference. Denial = escape, blame, not take responsibility. When we choose denial, we are choosing burden and no change.

When coaching, take the real pieces of the client's life. Help clients choose how to respond the reality, the events. It takes a little bit practice to get this habit of reframing and recognize that we could choose our perspectives of life.

Discussion
Q: Anything exciting that we could share with you? Share with us.

Q: How would you define/describe perspective to other?
- choice of attitude
- glasses to see the life
- the way you look at something

Q: Does perspective equal to core value?
No.
- core values shapes the perspectives
- perspective is the way to see/ treat core values (different people would have different ways a point of views to a same core value)

Q: How many of you, when you first attend ICA, and you wonder the effectiveness of the teleclass?
- A good coach has to be a good listener. Teleclass is for practicing the "listening skills". It provides great time of reflection. As a coach, we listen 80%, and talk 20% in a coaching session.