AC201 - Moving Forward

Facilitator: Bill Turpin
2009/2/26, 3/5 & 13

Part of coach's role is to help them to move from (stretch out) the comfort zone to the learning zone and not to make it become a panic zone. Prepare clients in advance and let them know that learning zone would be uncomfortable. We could ask clients "what is the worst thing would happen here?" and hold that space for them.

Be mindful of using the past to help someone to move forward. Coach focus on the future. What can we do today to make a better tomorrow? Not let client's past to stop them to move forward. Make sure that they know what's next. Make it clear what's the next action. Be specific about the action to be taken in place.

Discussion
What are the key things, basics for someone to move forward? What questions we need to ask first?
- What do you want? What are their actual goals? (goal setting)
What is the second step to ask?
- What's driving that goal? What's the value? Is the goal aligned with their values?
- Create accountability
What is it important the goal aligned with their values?
- Make sure they are in the right track and direction
What's the third step?
- Learning how? What we need to learn to achieve that goal? Building structure for our clients to embody and embrace. (Ask their lacking and needing to achieve that goal.)
What's the fourth step?
- You actually have to do something. Coaching is about taking action.
- "Knowledge is not power" but "The application of Knowledge is power".
- If the person does not leave the place not action, coaching would not happen.
What's the next step?
- Look what happened? Stop and look at the results. Ask yourself "Does this action taken get closer or farer to you goal?"
- Identifying UAC? What's blocking them?
What's the next?
- Readjust / clarify the goal and do it all over again of the process from setting up the goal.

Can a client go too fast? What is the pace here?
- Yes, possible. It's up to the client.
Is it possible that a client move too fast for themselves? What are the concerns and risks of going too fast?
- Someone is looking for a job situation where they are not ready for it. They are not clear of what they want and jump ahead.
- Without being really clear, it is awkward to move forward.
- We do not want to stop our clients but we need to bear in mind to help and assist our client when they move too fast. We could help them change the pace slowing down a little bit.

We need to be careful not create an environment of dependency to our clients. How does it happen that our clients depend on us?
- The difference coaching of consulting: We do not give too much advice. We keep silence, because we want to create an environment for them to think and figure out the solution. Coaching is not giving the answers from coach. Clients should take the action by themselves. The real love of learning is creating the environment for clients to receive the insights. Remind clients what their roles in the coaching session.
- When we give them suggestions, we do not give them the opportunities think of the solutions or ideas of action.

Sometimes if we are demanding, when someone has the UAC of meeting demand from their parents, we might just reinforce the UAC and our clients just take the action to please us. It's not their decisions. In that way, we may disempower our clients to take action on their own.