焦點解決, 短期治療 by Jeremy

時間: 2008/2/21
地點: The One (國家劇院一樓)
與會人: James, Sandy, Jeremy, Westley, Tina

Jeremy 跟大家分享 "焦點解,決短期治療" 的讀書心得與應用. 包過背景, 基本精神, 技巧, 情緒處理以及後設邏輯. 大家發現很多重點與現在 ICA 學習的內容有以取童工之妙. 建議ICA的同學可以買這本書參考. 另一本相關主題的書: Office 心靈教練(企業的焦點解決短期諮商).

Sandy 也跟大家分享 "助人工作者的 5P " - Patience, Pace, Path, Process and Possibility. Sany 還帶大家進行 "五根手指頭快速建立自信心法". 今天的聚會真的收穫豐富. 感謝大家的無私分享.

Dear all,
I had a wonderful learning time with you last Saturday evening. Thanks toJeremy and Sandy's sharing. I felt great. Just one information for yourreference, according to my peer coach, we could extend the learning periodfrom two years to three years. If you need more information, I will ask mypeer coach for more information.Have a nice week ahead.

Regards,

Tina

AC105 Creating Action

Facilitator: Nick Bosk
2009/2/18 & 25

Let's talk about creating action is the next step after we set up the goal. It's a process of achieving that goal. Why to have that goal and how to get there. Motivate our clients to take action as a coach. The motivation should come from clients' values. We are not source, we help clients focus on their motivations.

Goal setting for creating action, after create your goal than put it into action.
Why (reason- focusing on personal values) and how (process) are two components to create the goal. The values must be their own values, not others' values. Focus on clients' strength inventory. Focus on growth, positive things in life.

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Focus on our strengths as a coach
Look into yourself and step in the role as a coach. Each of you changes the perspective that we are not students, but coaches RIGHT NOW. You are a brilliant coach. Focus on the strength that you want to grow.
What are the strengths you bring into your coaching? (1)
- Be my best self, perfectly you. (positive) >>> "better" presents the feeling of negative and lacking. (How would you take action to become a perfect you? What would be if you not take the action? What strength you have to help you make more connection with other people?)

When coaching, I know we want to have "ah-ha" moment in our life, but sometimes the conversation stop because our client need to so some fieldwork to figure it out on their own.

What are the strengths you bring into your coaching? (2)
- Being non-judgmental, allowing clients to have their voice and ideas. They need to take their own action. (How important it is to the coaching? How do you allow yourself from being judgmental? Every person is unique. We are not walk in their shoes, so we should not be judgmental.)

What are the strengths you bring into your coaching? (3)
- Supportive and good listener. Listen to clients' stories and then we share ours.

Resources
Creating a list of resources could help us to achieve the goals. Name one or two resources that you could use to be a best coach?
- ICA programs / Communities
- Clients' testimonial
- Clients to help us to get more clients
- Website would be a marketing tool for coaching business
- Current coaching clients and networking of coaches (get together and share experience, tools and challenges)

We do learn from our clients. We could find powerful message and information for me within those notes generated/reflected from the coaching session and clients. Coaching experience could help us become a better coach. Write down the best thing about you generally. Write a testimonial about yourself. We could post it on this session.

AC104 Goal Setting

Facilitator: Bill Turpin
2009/2/17 & 24

A goal setting study sponsored by the Ford Foundation found that:

• 23% of the populations has NO IDEA what they want from life & as a result they float around aimlessly.
• 67% of the population has a general idea of what they want but they don’t have any plans for how to get it.
• Only 10% of the population has specific well-defined goals but even then, 7 out of 10 of those people reach their goals only half (50%) of the time.
• The top 3% of the people in the study achieved their goals 89% of the time. What was the difference? They found that of all the possible variables, the only difference between the top performers and the rest was that the top 3% WROTE DOWN THEIR GOALS.

What's the value to write it down? Tangible, remind, make it more real, stay focus, it brings clarity of the goal, no to forget the goal, develop structure to remind the commitment we have made, real and measurement, reinforce our mind, visible is very powerful.

Goals are only step stones help us understand what we really, really want. What we really want is driven by our values. Goals can change. There are multiple ways or the other way to achieve a goal.

What are your roles as a coach in supporting clients of setting their goals?
- Personal encouragement
- Ask questions
- Sounding board
- Identify the goal hijacker for clients
- Passion
- Stretch them a little bit
- Accountability partner, help them not to quit easily
- Bear in mind that “focusing on clients”: it’s their goal not our goal.

Two goals with limited time:
Help client clarify what do they really want to do? Help them to find their passion.

Help clients to move outside their comfort zone and move to learning zone (uncomfortable zone, panic zone). We help them understand that sometimes we need to stay in the uncomfortable zone but we will help them stay away from panic zone.